Get the kids in Difficult situations

Is it necessary to go through difficult situations in order to move forward in life?

A teenage boy asked angrily.

A scientist was experimenting with butterfly larvae in his laboratory. The larvae were in the final stages of becoming butterflies. The scientist noticed that a hole had formed in the larvae. The shell was so small that it was impossible for the butterfly to get out of it, but she was still trying hard to get out of the hole. The scientist thought, why don't I enlarge this hole so that the butterfly can come out easily. With the help of a tool, he made such a big hole in the shell of the larva that the butterfly could easily come out and that's what happened.

The butterfly came out of the larvae in a short time without any effort. But the scientist was shocked when he saw that the butterfly could not fly despite its efforts. Even the feathers are not fully open. The scientist took the butterfly to his senior scientist and told him the whole story. He sighed coldly and spoke with regret. You made the butterfly disabled for life because of your stupidity. When the butterfly is trying to get out of the larvae, then useful substances are embedded in its wings. Due to these substances, the wings of the butterfly come to life and it becomes able to fly. Helped, but deprived him of these useful substances.

Difficult situations stimulate our abilities and potential. Round the sharp corners of our personality, teach us to fly well in adverse conditions

 As parents, sometimes we try very hard to save our children from difficult situations and do a lot for them. We save them from the difficulties and frustrations of life.

Harvard University doctor says that children who are rescued from difficult situations are given a lot of facilities, they face a lot of difficulties in life, they have less ability to cope with challenging situations, they are more. Less results are achieved with effort

By helping the children a lot ... By their actions or in other words imperceptibly they are giving the message that

 If you do not have the ability, then the message reaches the child very well

And he keeps in mind that he doesn't have the ability to do the relevant thing

Get your child ready to go, says a psychologist. Not to prepare the way for the child

Teach the child that

1- Living within social and religious values,

2-With available resources

How to solve problems and difficulties

 Not wanting ideal conditions and society all the time and instead of solving problems with available resources, weep over lack of resources and suffer from inaction.

 Put children in difficult situations, prepare them for possible difficulties in the future and get them to practice.