Misunderstanding in Relationship

Why bad relationships?

Today's fast paced times have provided innumerable facilities for human beings but have also increased the distance of human beings from other human beings. Even though we are close to each other, we have mentally widened the distance so much that living in the same house, there is a communication gap between husband and wife, siblings and parents that neither side wants to bridge. Man's interests and goals in relationships have changed so much that he has become a social animal confined to one screen. What are the reasons for this and what should be done to solve this problem so that love and intimacy can be re-established in mutual relations. Of course, this is in the subconscious of man, but there is an unknown fear of exposing him to the level of consciousness, because of which he runs away like a fast pace alone.

Misunderstandings between relatives

The most important motivator that weakens the relationship between oneself is misunderstanding in the relationship. Misunderstandings in relationships arise when a person imposes one-sided ideas on himself and establishes his own opinion about the other. In the process, there is a lack of two-way communication, which leads to rifts in the relationship.

Communication is very important to eliminate misunderstandings in relationships. Get your point across so that the image of your personality flies in the right direction and a new twist in the relationship.

Machines increase distances

Machines have so enslaved human beings that they are so engrossed in their social life with their heads down, pressing the touch screen in their hands, that they do not know what troubles the characters of their personal life are suffering. Facebook seems to be fully involved in people's grief.

In this regard, I would like to narrate an eyewitness account. When I visited a patient at the Sialkot Medical Complex for a few months, there was a middle-aged patient in the bed next to him. The presence of his daughter, whose head was lost in the mobile phone on the bench next to him, was known from the fact that after a while, a strange laugh was coming out of her throat and also from the throat of this patient. And the sounds of moaning are equal to the speed of laughter. I was very surprised to see them. My cousin was trying to water the woman but she would shake her hand. Later it was found out that the girl was the daughter of the patient and the brightness of the screen had increased the distance so much that she could not even take the privilege of watering her mother by taking her eyes off him for a minute. We are surrounded by hundreds of instances in which social media attraction has created such distances in relationships that people live in the same house and chat on WhatsApp.

As long as man is subject to machines, he will not be able to comprehend his emotions and moods. It is also not easy to distance oneself from machines that are so deeply ingrained in the facilitator that love is nowhere to be seen in front of him.

According to Motivational Speaker Qasim Ali Shah, while mobile phones have reduced human-to-human contact and made the world a global village, it has also increased man's distance from other human beings. To bridge this gap, mobiles should only be used in times of need to help understand relationships at home.

Theory of necessity

Mental distance has widened since the use of the word need became common in relationships. Now the children also start saying this to the parents

It turns out that you don't even love me because you didn't take anything. Or you have given another sibling a good company mobile but you have given me a normal one. You love her more than me Now that expression of love is hidden in the veil of need. It is not visible that the parents put their caste behind them and provided something and the children began to measure love. The existence of pure and selfless love is seldom seen and lucky is the relationship that has rare love.

According to Bertrand Russell, if love is promoted by putting the needs behind society, then the need is met automatically.

Lack of love in the cloak of indifference

Today's man has become so preoccupied with business life and in himself that he has become so insensitive to the pain and anxiety of others. He sees on TV the oppression of the people of Kashmir, Syria, Burma, Palestine, but his heart has become so hard that it seems normal. In the same way, this attitude of his has become customary even with close relationships. If a person feels the pain of someone, then he is his own essence.

One of the two main causes of numbness is his "I" and the other is his sense of guilt. When "I" is born inside a person, he seems to negate "us". Therefore, he becomes insensitive to the caste of others. "Self" and "I" are also a big difference. Iqbal's "self" makes sense of relationships while "I" makes me feel alone in every feeling.

• Man realizes his beloved relationship when he has departed from this world and then he is surrounded by regrets and unfortunately he uses the screen again to get rid of these regrets. He should think of renewing his relationship with the relationships he has.